THANK YOU FOR RUINING MY BIRTHDAY
A raw, cathartic, and sometimes ridiculous story that portrays the rejection, loneliness, and uncertainty of dating in New York City. Using text and images plucked straight from her personal diary and photo library, Ploger shares the journey of recreating her identity, mid-life, after the sudden end of a long-term relationship. With whimsy and a touch of self-deprecation, Ploger dives into questions about who she is and what she wants, ultimately revealing that the ride is more fun when she embraces her curiosity, femininity, sexuality, and the messiness of life.
“I just read your book in one sitting. I am crying and laughing. I feel so seen and so less alone. And female. And broken. And beautiful.”
-D. Badaluco
“This intimate yet effervescent life-slice sets us on a journey that is painful, full of loss, reconciliation and is equally playful, sexy, revealing; all real and relatable. App-dating men in New York City, some older, some younger, some married – what could be a more thrilling rollercoaster ride? “Birthday” is an exploration of breakup, wants and needs, taking chances and a search for connection and stability in the face of shattered dreams and turning 50, all while integrating photography as a tool for examination of self and others. Revelatory and beautiful…I don’t think I’ve ever finished a book with a smile and tears in my eyes.”
-J. Langer